October 15, Recently my client told me about a guy she had been out on a few dates with. She shared that their kissing soon progressed into something a little hot and heavy on the couch. But why? It can also mean mildly indecent in relation to sex. So essentially, sex is a natural occurrence between two people for the purposes of sharing intimacy and reproducing. Without it… this special and deep level of intimacy cannot be felt and obviously there be no human race. So how then can something that is meant for good and natural purposes be portrayed as something raunchy, bad, nasty, or naughty?
Around might be love. There might be commitment. There might be a concrete friendship at its core. Worth it — but hard. Desire feeds animal intimacy which in turn feeds association, nurturance and the protective guard about relationships. Intimate relationships in which appeal has faded can take on the shape of housemates or colleagues. Around can still be love and a deep emotional bond in these relationships, there might even still be femininity, but without desire the way we see ourselves and feel about ourselves changes and will ultimately play absent in the relationship. Understanding the character of desire is key to accomplishment it back.