The surprising benefits of being blinded by love At what point monogamy began to occur in humans is up for debate. Some anthropologists cite the fact that ancient human ancestors were strongly sexually dimorphic — that males and females were different sizes and shapes — as evidence of non-monogamy. A high degree of sexual dimorphism suggests that there are strong sexually selective pressures on one or both genders. In some species, like gorillas, larger males are more likely to be sexually successful by using their greater size to fight off competition from other males. Sexual dimorphism does not always work this way. Species that use ostentatious displays of fitness, like birds with beautiful plumes and brightly coloured fish, compete for the attention of mates, rather than physically fighting off competition. The difference here is that often these are not social species, unlike humans, so one male or female would not necessarily be able to control all of their potential mates in one area. The ancient human fossil record is patchy, though. Similar logic is also used to argue the exact opposite — that our ancient relatives had a similar level of dimorphism to us.
But or when you're in a affiliation, do you feel more loved after your partner: Tells you I adoration you or praises something you did? Surprises you with a meaningful gift? Goes on a weekend trip along with just the two of you? Runs the errands or does the laundry? Holds your hand while you're walking? Answering these questions could give you a hint as to what your love language might be.